Keeping a healthy relationship is an elusive tasks that entails totality for personal sacrifice to tolerate one another. Many relationship has been packed up due to poor tolerance emanating from such a grumpied partner who evidently see, s fault in all his/her doings as human. Two people coming together to forge a singular visions and achieve God given potentials, somewhat comes with alot of submitting to one another if such relationship must be productive. Remember, two adult can not be together without some element of misunderstanding whatsoever. Ur family upbringing and that of his, is differently pleasant or unpleasant. Therefore, don't expect him or her to act the way u want it to become . We are two different individuals whose visions, perceptions, cultural, education, social lifestyles differs from one another. Look, what makes any productive relationship going, is submissiveness and sufficient understanding. Dear friends, let me quickly give u the five essential elements that give a healthy relationship.
(1)caring:caring is an act that is capable of given ur partner a nice sense of belongings in any relationship. Any relationship with lack of care, oftentimes heats the rock. How often do u call him or her daily? How often do u chat her at ur convenient time? How often do u pay her a visit when she could not make it to ur house? How often do u give to her some cash even if is a little? When ever we show cares to one another, it energies more love and eliminate some ill mindset against one another. Learn how to show care.
(2)social media attitude :social media has giving us great advantage to relate with our love ones irrespective of our locations. Now, what do u do when his messages on Facebook, twitter, or WhatsApp pops up when ever u open ur social media account? Do u know that some people are in the habit of ignoring messages especially when such message is an old message. Look, if ur partner sent u a message asking u, how was ur night? Dear friends, it does not matter how old the message was sent. If at all it takes u three days to log into ur account and u come across such message, pls say my night was good. It does not matter the time u are presently. Be it morning, afternoon, or night. U must reply her messages if really u love her. Stop the habit of been full of urself. Just me and I. What on earth would make someone who cares about u, asking u, how are u doing? And ur reply is fyn. Imagine ur spelling of fine u couldn't spelt correctly yet u will not ask him or her"and urs? Look, social media is all about relating to one another in which ever ways that account was opened for. If I ask u, how was ur weekend? And u said, fyn without asking and urs? babe, u will wait until when christ will come before I will chat u again. Ofcourse my friends I do have their contacts knows that. That is not arrogance but a laid down principle. Don't force ur self on people. Who ever that wants to be left alone, pls assist him or her to be left alone. I sincerly see many guys writing or chatting their girls on Facebook, they will say hi babe, she will not reply, he will continue, how are u doing today babe? she will be online yet will not reply u! The foolish guy will now say have u eating today? She will not still reply u. Guy why don't u respect ur self and leave her alone. Is obvious ur chat to her annoys her. She loves someone else not u. Remember, several girls do not like guys who chats and call them often. They see ur chats or calling her often as disturbance. Vice sa versa. A guy who don't care about her and do not call often, the day he will call, she will be glad to pick his call as well as saying with excitement "hmm James, this one u remembered me today. And if she misses ur call she will get credit to call back. Lol. Anyway, is good to show care for one another often if u want a healthy relationship.
(3)virginity stupidity. Do u know that 95 percent of girls who glaringly claims to be a virgin actually allows guys to do other things with their body? U know what I mean. Look, a virgin is a lady or a girl that does not know men or met a guy in the bedroom. U allows him do all the oral stuff, u even went oral too with him, yet u said ur a virgin? Lol. For me, I don't ascribed to that. I must know what am looking for, taste its sweetness before marriage. Afterall, having a broken relationship, is better than having a broken marriage. Don't come and tell ur parents that the reason why u left ur matrimonial home was because the man can't perform! A word is enough for the wise.
(4)learn how to give to ur man what ever u can afford:this is for the ladies. Every responsible men, wants a productive woman. What are u bringing to the table? Stop been idle. If u lack job, pls look for one. Responsibility in a relationship is for the both parties.stop believing that every financial responsibility is only for the men. Yet u advocate for gender equality? Lol. If what a man can do, women can do better. Then stop being a house wife. Be a career woman or a business woman. Imagine a partner coming to celebrate her fiancee birthday with nothing. Not even an ordinary BYC singlet for that guy as a gift? Relationship is all about relating with one another emotionally, educationally, financially, and spiritually otherwise. Don't be a liability.
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(5)Be submissive to one another :Been submissive produces a quality nutrients that strengthen any relationship. The man must submit to his partner too. These has nothing to do with culture. Don't build ur relationship in an autocratic manner where the woman will have no say or her own choices. The ingredients that gives peace a chance in any relationship, is when the both parties respects each others boundaries. Stop encroaching to her privacy. Stop picking her calls, stop going through her social media chats. Respect her wishes. Women generally loves respect. So respect her womanhood.
Afteral any respect compelled through autocratic ways, does not last. Be a democrat.
Love one another in one accord.
My name is Clifford igwe, aka CLIFF dboss. Every other titles, are kept pending until we are sure no lives was lost at lekki tollgate.
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